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Wedding planning tips for bride in waiting!

You are in love and the date has finally been set, your heart is racing just counting the days till the big day. But wait there’s a global pandemic in the mix now!
So what are you to do? Scratching your head.. not really..hmm..admit it, canceling the venue,
postponing the date, changing the invitations and the list goes on.
 
Wedding planning is no small affair howsoever big or small might be your budget or gathering.
From the proposal to saying ‘I do’ a lot needs to be planned for and arranged. Think perhaps about the venue, dress, cake, catering, invites phew..and it’s not even half of the complete list.
 
Some smart planning might be required to make the best use of TIME on hand here’s how:
 
  1. Book a wedding photographer: Always wanted a styled photoshoot on your special day, well now might be the time to book one especially when many are offering good discounts on top of being the very best. one such wedding photographer, we came across during our research is La Rosa weddings www.larosaweddingsphotography.co.nz.
 
Just some of their work we love for more do visit their website linked above.
 
 
 
2. Go web/window shopping: say yes to the dress ( shortlist designs )
Being a bride to be you already know how important it is to say YES to the right dress, isn’t it?
well not only does the perfect dress selection become a priority for brides to be but also the fitting of the dress, its color and most importantly the budget of your dress is something that seeks attention.
But while you cannot physically go out just as yet to try it on, browsing through some lovely bridal dresses on local shops is a good idea since who knows you might just find the ‘One’.
 
We also shared some useful tips and planning resources in an earlier blog post of ours if you would like to see here is the link: https://www.lovexpresso.co.nz/post/self-help-for-bridal-woes-avoid-the-ohh-no-before-you-get-hitched
 
3) Negotiate a deal for the wedding venue
Whether you are getting married in a church, by the beach or in your back yard chances are a reception venue might still be something you are searching for.
Let’s say whenever it might be feasible in the coming months. So, why settle for less and now might be the time to book a venue of your choice which was earlier overbooked or not in the picture at all.
 
 
4) A video call wedding?
As funny as that might have sounded if someone suggested that to you a few months back, now it is being adopted by many couples who simply cannot wait to get hitched and how. Trending or not it is one option for sure think about the smitten couples who are over the top in love and ready to say ‘I DO’!
But wait, do arrange for a wedding celebrant before making that video call to relatives though 🙂
 
5) Beauty is in the hands of an aesthetician
Haha not literally, but they can, of course, help you to enhance your natural features. while many high-end beauty salons could be on your wish list, similar results can be achieved for less at times if you research well or have a recommendation handy. In this case, you got a recommendation of our most favorite beauty salon Crowning Glory in the Auckland city located at 534 Sandringham Road. their web link for bookings and enquires for your reference: https://www.facebook.com/riyascrowningglory/
P.S make enquires and bookings well in advance, after lockdown might be a busy time.
 
6) Wedding gift for bride or groom
Planning for a special/thoughtful gift for your beloved is no easy task. It can be something small like a promise rose
Or a customized hamper of all their favorite things inside but littlest of things can help you to mark your special day in your own way.
 
 
And if you are an artsy soul create a keepsake instead that sweeps them off their feet every time they look at it ..well..literally it can.. like a Star map poster marking your first day as Mr & Mrs.!
 
 
 
Keep it stylish whatever you decide, follow your heart and enjoy this phase too.., think of it this way ‘got more time to make it perfect’ be better prepared to rock that new bride look.
Every plain jane can let her tied up bun loose, well once in a while right!
 
xoxo

 

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Self Discovery

quote on lifeThe journey of life is filled with ups and downs. We give up at times and don’t feel like continuing ..it is most challenging to still tread on the path, you struggle but you keep moving ahead. anything that is worth achieving will not come easy! 

Girl and cage

What do you do when you feel everything is working against you? you have the will but don’t have the courage to go out and face all obstacles. what must you do then?

 

Keep moving, keep doing efforts for what you seek is worth every bit of your time and emotions. Self is the most complex of all beings to fully understand. why I say so because we often take ourself discovery for granted and that’s one of the reasons you hear about many late bloomers who only understand what they want later in life. So, many celebrities, public figures go through self-discovery much later in life and haven’t you and me been in awe of their achievements. Once you understand yourself fully, Sky is the limit for your reach.

Intrapersonal skills are not rare, but are rarely used by most to the optimal level. when you know about your own strengths you can channelize your skills in the right direction and make utmost use of your precious gift. Gift of knowledge about ones innermost unique abilities is exceptional and only you yourself can pass this on to ‘you’.

Are you ready for that, then consider reading success mantra 101:

  • Spend one hour daily with only yourself, this could be excercise, meditation, listening to calming music anything you do for yourself.

    Spiritual practice

  • jot down what you think you can do, and what you think you can’t do in terms of skills set, activities etc.

    Business man drawing a block diagram plan

    • Challenge yourself to try out the ones you think you can never do.

      • watercolor yoga
  • Pamper yourself in some way daily.

    pamper

  • Learn a new skill you always wanted.

    Businessman doing a hit arrow target practice

  • Reason out failure. 

    quote

  • Maintain a journal about yourself.
  • Sing for yourself.

    Singing young woman with microphone pop art vector

  • Explore  your repressed feelings.

    brain

  • Draw your self and have a good look at how you see yourself vs others!

photo credit: free pik.com

Do comment and follow my blog, lets discuss further on this and other topics!!

Survival guide when in lockdown

The COVID-19 or coronavirus has created panic, anxiety, increasing uncertainty around essential supplies, business/employment or general uneasiness for kids in your family and you are finding it hard to contemplate how you are to make it less stressful for yourself and others especially the little humans.

Thinking about the situation for when they finally do have their school holidays and the real circus begins!
Chances are it’s not going to be an easy ride with you and partner already trying to make work from home “WORK” somehow without being mundane and overbearing 😶
If these are some of your concerns you are not alone, secondly and most importantly if these are your only concerns coz you are healthy and the actual infection is not your main area of distress at this time. breathe a sigh of relief. why? You ask, simply because you still got the best of you and family whom you love with you right at home.

Why not make the best use of this time together? Think about it.

Here we have some handy tips and ideas for getting the Work from home, work for you, see how:

1) Self-care and development tips:

This situation that you are finding yourself in is not the one, you chose to be in( in the first place) but being where you are right now might be the protocol/ need of the hour or simply something you cannot run away from!
Now, if you agree to what I just said keep reading for how to make it a blessing in disguise and your most productive time yet. How you ask? well for starters write down or type down a Time table/make use of a planner (printable linked below) or howsoever you usually chart out tasks.Then divide your time in core areas you have been thinking of putting in your energies for a long time. The results might surprise you and being more productive than ever before could be achieved faster than you originally thought.

Personal planner

Achieve your personal fitness goals, now that you can! here use this free printable template to set your targets or reference it to make your own.

Work out planner

If however, you are in the mood for some chocolatey indulgence try these recipes by Kim Oliver of The Chocolate Tour.

*Did you know, you can even order some of the best artisan chocolates (NZ made) as one-off buys or as subscriptions from Kim, your very own Chocolate curator. Well, now you do.

Some pampering for you, well go for it.

Ideas to use at home could include:-

Spa night at home: Have some relaxing music playing in the background and set up the bath with some bath petals/hand made soaps available in leading supermarkets or better still buy from a local NZ business like Our personal favorites https://www.skyecandleandbodycare.co.nznot only do they have excellent quality but the range is phenomenal too with great prices. Have some hot towels ready and get ready to soak right in. just thinking of that relaxes my nerves..:)

Retail therapy from home: why not buy that little black dress you have been thinking about or what about those man shorts that need a cool T-shirt to go with? hmm… I have given you some ideas and now that most retailers are offering great deals or free delivery make most of it. ( right from your sweet home).

Home decor ideas to think about:-

Your home is the mirror to your personality they say, and a small update to those bare walls or out of style artifact won’t harm.Star map prints that not only look stylish for any space but are also personalized to your specific date/time and place making it a great keepsake as well!

Other prints like Love (geographic) maps and Custom illustration cards are also linked below for your reference that is trending at the moment.

www.lovexpresso.co.nz/shop for reference

If print art is not your thing but you still like beautiful things, what about long-lasting preserved roses in a dome?

Long lasting forever rose

They last for more than a year and require minimal care plus can be kept as a centerpiece or gifted to loved ones.

2) Couple time/ date nights with your honey without spending a lot of money!

Reality check apart from weekends/planned holidays both of you are not used to spending this much time together, even if you are, certainly not juggling parenting/working from home, managing the house all at the same time! But to restore some balance & rekindle the sparks amidst this time of complete confusion it might be helpful to try home date nights which enhances understanding and positivity in the household along with keeping you two happy.
Making it more interesting won’t harm either, now would it?What about a planned home date night? Theme specific plus engaging, something you can do right at home after the kids go to bed. Sounds good? YES..then check out linked resource/freebie to help you sail along.
Free Resource as promised, click the link below to download a date night plan with printables to enjoy a romantic scavenger hunt at home.

Free Date night plan

Click here>> http://bit.ly/3927nP0
For Brides to be: Your Sweetheart Popped the question already or think you have that lined up? check out some pretty bridal dresses that are affordable and stylish by Dear bride NZhttps://www.instagram.com/dearbridenz/?hl=en

3) Managing kids, keeping them entertained and occupied.

Let’s face it keeping the kids occupied in a creative way is not always the easiest of things or doable especially when you have your hands full with work and managing the home at the same time. its time like these when a little help in planning can prove instrumental in restoring calm and sanity to the chaos.What’s better than a Pre-planned activity sheet for kids? A 150+ activity sheet, that is, linked below for your reference. https://docs.google.com/…/1KCFnWreu4v7VoO3NbgP-Qc…/htmlview…So, while you work, you can have your little humans constructively engaged in some brain gyming and not just watching the telly or playing video games. So, go ahead and give yourself a pat on back –Mummy guilt sorted and kids benefit from these..YAY!
(I got this from someone who shared it on Facebook. original source >> this group >>Montessori Inspired Homeschooling )

kids school holiday free planner

Takeaway points: Give your and your family’s Mental health priority at this unpredictable and uncertain time, try to consciously relax and take time to adjust to your new routine. Your kids, spouse, fur baby and you can survive this if you set your mind to it!

Kia Kaha, New Zealand

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Detox recipe: For your relationship!

Sheril, creative head at Lovexpresso(M.sc Psychology)

 Relationships are like our body in many ways, if you just think about this analogy you will agree with me. what you put in has its effects on its functionality! Like we take care of our bodies by exercising, eating sensibly, keeping our routine in check etc similarly our relationships are in need of care all the time, not something we can overlook and let it run on Auto-pilot.

So, what is required you ask? Should I always be singing love songs or dancing around saying I love you to my partner, keep sending flowers, gifts to them perhaps? Although none of these is a bad idea, these are not the only things your other half is asking from you. ‘Undivided attention’ to what they have to say, perhaps makes a better gift!

But are we doing that enough? let us discuss some of the toxins like when we are on a fitness plan and do a No carbs only fruits diet (our detox day)😉 Similarly Detox for relationships can make them a bit more healthier.

Identifying toxins in a relationship:

1) Digital overload

2) Work-life imbalance

3) Selective hearing

4) Criticism and ridicule: One or both people constantly criticize and put the other person down. …

5)Lack of communication. …

6)Loss of emotional intimacy. …

7)Disengagement. …

8)Passive aggressive behavior. …

9)Inability to forgive. …

10)Codependent behavior. …

11)Substance abuse.

12) Lack of respect

13) Low physical intimacy

14)Keeping secrets/Dishonesty with partner

Although there are some other factors involved as well, here we are just discussing the ones we have control over or are directly related to the couples own habits.

Recipe for detox:

Now let us come to the things we can do to improve our relationships with the love of our lives💖

Things you can start doing today:

1) Digital Detox Day🚫- Decide on a mutually agreeable day and time( could be as little as one hour of a gadget-free zone)

   In order to reap the maximum benefits of this detox recipe, we need to have a full planner for our detox days  ( which I’ll be sharing soon)

2) Create a balance between work life👨‍🏫 and love-life😘

3)Your Attention and engagement in partners conversation make them calmer and they feel cared for.

4) Resolve Negative feelings: No one likes to stay in a constant war zone!

For more details on this, let’s chat 

email me at- info@lovexpresso.co.nz or join us at http://www.lovexpresso.co.nz/join-us

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Life through the eyes of a 5 year old

Everything seems new, everything seems naive such are my eyes that I only see ‘nice’. Rainbows make it to all my drawings, I love it when it rains, I love it when it shines!

unicorn.jpg

            I Like to do what makes me happy, I sing my own songs and create new melodies..

                                    my day is full of discoveries some I like,

                                                    some I don’t.

               i keep my life simple with one rule -that there are no rules !!

            i wonder at times why is it hard for others to be so carefree, or is it me who is

                                                 taking it slow??

i don’t see any dangers around me, for me, it’s either easy or not so easy.

                 things keep going the same way if I don’t do my own way.

i can catch the rain and cover the sunshine if only my hands were too big

                                        I could touch the sky!

No worries bother me enough to not play and dance. Isn’t childhood the best part of who we are?

My songs are so sweet, they could melt stones. My voice is so enchanting I seldom get past unnoticed.

Colours not one but all make my life bright. i love my rainbows, they remind me of hope through rain and always bring Sunshine ………………………

So, I don’t want to grow up, not now.. not now. No need to rush, my imaginations are yet to strike. i like it this way..when all I need is mum and her arms to make me forget about any broken toys or a bad school day!

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Mompreneur: how they do it all

Women, in general, are multi-tasking every day around you and me. I think of my mother when I think of multi-taskers. I respect her for all that she managed at home and outside while raising us.

what sets women who are mothers and also running their own business apart is their sheer determination to do it all! In this fast-paced competitive world, these ‘sheroes’ are everywhere around us, making a real difference in your life and mine.

when an opportunity came up for me to do the same, I just couldn’t turn my back on it. I like to take up work that motivates me and has an opportunity to make a difference in someone else’s life at the same time. I felt strongly about teaching students with special needs when I began my career some 10 years back and I took it up even when at that time there wasn’t much awareness about my field of work and quality work was just getting started and I contributed my skills for it. It is a different case altogether this time around though since I’m entering totally new territory being a sole proprietor of my business which also aims at making a positive change in people’s life.

I look up to all the women in business who have been there and done it all especially to those who achieved without much help. One sees a lot of groups on social media of like-minded professionals these days and it is immensely motivating to read success stories. but what all goes behind the success is what you realize when you start to establish your own business. what are the real factors influencing women all around us to get out there and try out every possibility to build up their careers more than ever before is something to think about.

  • Self-reliance.
  • Financial stability.

 

  • Role Models for kids.

 

  • Own identity. 

 

  • Breaking away from clichés 

 

  • The thrill of achievement.

 

  • Sharing unique perspective and talent.

 

I hope to follow the trail of inspirational women all around me, and lets see how far I can reach. share your views with me about this and lets discuss!

 

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5 things to do differently on your date!

A little change here and there helps to break away from monotony in most routine things we do, same goes for date nights. it is supposed to be the fun one to one quality time we look forward to with our beloved partner but at times just the movie and dinner routine outside (even at a fancy place you go to) can become predictable and boring. 

 

 

cute couple

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So here are some quirky ideas to brighten up your date nights:

 

  • Skip the flower bouquet routine swap with a handwritten floral note instead convey your feelings, something you have missed out on saying to your partner and surprise them. hint: message in a bottle could be sweet.
  • Go for stargazing together, visit the nearest planetarium that could be something interesting. 
  • Cooking a meal together from scratch and setting up the table might not seem interesting but it does encourage conversation and partnership which is fundamental to date night anyway!
  • Include a fun card game in your date it could lead to other interesting things later on, who knows. 
  • Bank your love notes to each other after each date. It will be really nostalgic by the time you read it at the end of the year. just think about it. 

Always seal it with a kiss! now, this doesn’t need any change

Benefits of dating at home!

Dating your partner later in your relationship is as important if not more as it was at the beginning of your relationship. Though most of us try to catch up, it is not always feasible to specially go out every time. This becomes trickier post kids leaving little or no extra time for the couple to go on a date outside the home. So, what do you do to manage this? hire babysitters once in a while, take help from family members, but is it always possible? probably not. Here comes importance of home dates.

Dating at home is often left unexplored or underutilized where monotony sets in easily if key factors are ignored. what drives a relationship is, of course, your love for each other and mutual respect.But it does require some nurturing every once in a while which requires time and effort. it becomes a bit easier if you don’t have to go out each time you think of spending quality time with each other and dating at home comes as a very plausible option.

let’s discuss what are the most overlooked benefits of home dating:

  • Saves you travelling time.
    who likes to get stuck in traffic after an already tiring day at work/home. when you know you have to only get back home to celebrate your special time together you arrive relaxed just by the thought of it. Doesn’t that set the mood right from the beginning of your date?
  • Privacy
    Your home is as cosy as it can get when it comes to enjoying your date in complete privacy. you don’t have to care about what others around might think of your actions or gestures for your loved one.
  • Cost-effective
    why spend extra money on travelling, bookings etc if better can be done at home. you can make a meal together or order food from your favourite take away and focus on more important things like each other. isn’t that a big plus.
  • Endless possibilities

    If you are a little bit creative or thoughtful about your date nights a lot can be achieved with little effort. you can explore a lot of possibilities with respect to interesting couple bonding activities.
  • Flexibility
    you can do the planned activities at your own convenient time. what can be better than that? no waiting in the queue, getting late for a restaurant booking, arrange to babysit etc.
  • Rejuvenating
    it’s refreshing for both of you.
  • No distractions
  • Explore your creativity
  • No Inhibitions